Have you ever had something happen to you that made you angry and because of this, you said hurtful words to a loved one without meaning too? I was visiting with some friends the other day and they were having a new oven delivered. Upon unwrapping the oven it was obvious that they had received the wrong one, so she got all in a tizz and said something awful to her husband on a totally different subject! I immediately noticed why this had happened and hinted that perhaps she was angry with the store that had delivered the wrong oven and not angry with her husband. She is a good friend so I can say these things to her.

The point I am making here is that when you are challenged and it makes you feel the emotion of anger, no matter who is there with you, and if nobody is, we do have a tendency to call someone just so we can vent our anger, we can easily slip up and say something that we may regret. Your anger can unintentionally hurt another so make it a habit to become aware of the language and the words you use when conversing with others… especially those we love.

In this case above, the husband dismissed what his wife had said but it could have easily turned into an outright misunderstanding causing a whole set of problems which wouldn’t have served either one of them. Have you been aware of this happening to you? I know that there have been times when something has upset me and without thinking, I have lashed out at the person closest to me. That was before I learned how to be aware of my thoughts and language.

Quick to think, slow to anger, and slow to speak

It takes practice to know why we say the things we do. It could be something as easy as stubbing your toe upon getting out of bed that sets your day in a direction of a downward spiral and without knowing, we snap and let the fact that we are not happy, make someone else not happy just so we don’t have to suffer alone! Does this make sense?

Think for a moment to the last time you were hurt or disappointed, how you re-acted and if you happened to use language that empowered or dis-empowered yourself or someone else! Remember how it felt and if you can, also, how was your physiology at the time? I say this because we do sit/stand differently when we are upset as opposed to when we are ecstatic! Our physiology then has a role to play in the language we use.

Okay, take time out and try this. Stand up and hang your head and hunch your shoulders over as though you are a victim of circumstance. Think back to a time when you felt anger. In this position, try smiling and having good thoughts. Can you? I mean, can you really think good thoughts if you have just been hurt or are angry?

Now try this. Stand up tall with eyes forward and a big smile on your face. How easy is it to say something positive? Totally different way of looking and feeling isn’t it? So how easy would it be now to become aware of your language that you use and how it affects others?

So, there is a marked difference as to how we speak depending on our physiology. If you can get over it sooner rather than later, you will be doing yourself and those around you a great favour. Don’t let your anger unintentionally hurt someone else. Be aware of how you are feeling and think about the words you will speak before opening your mouth. Life can be so much more pleasant when feeling love rather than anger.

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Yes, I am one day behind and it’s always better late than never. Blogger Appreciation Day [Unofficial] began with Darren Rowse from Problogger and as I received some love from Derek Semmler at Derek Semmler Dot Com (thank you for reminding me Derek) I wanted to join in and give my own bit of link love away to my readers who have commented on Buzzing with Ange (not original I know), and also to some random peeps I come across on a daily basis online on one social network or another. I would like to acknowledge you as without you, the conversation wouldn’t go on, and please know that I do appreciate your thoughts and support recently regarding my Dad who will be home in a day or two! He is doing extraordinarily well.

Like Darren, I also receive from time to time, emails and messages from people who have appreciated something I have said or written about and I have to tell you that I feel very blessed to have this opportunity of meeting and sharing with you online and I do enjoy our dialogue so keep them coming!

Now to a list of bloggers who all have something to contribute in their own way so if you haven’t already visited them, please make a point to check out their wonderful sites.

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Thank you for making my experience online a positive one.

I have been away with my family this past week in Perth, Western Australia and not due to return home until Sunday. I managed to slip away for a while to see what was going on online and time has slipped right by me. So here is a quickie post to let you know that I haven’t slipped into oblivion.

Being away with little ones means that you have to get into their world a little and find something magical for them at times so it was timely to come across this wonderful mime Fairy (pictured above) who sprinkled them with fairy dust Those are my girls to the right of the Fairy.

Do you remember as a child whether or not you could see Fairies? I had a conversation with a friend of mine once who told me that very young children often seem to be looking at something we as adults cannot see. He described them to be like firefly’s and that children would follow them with their eyes. I know this may seem a little outrageous to some, but let me know if you have ever noticed this with your kids. I am leaving my mind open as I don’t like to discount things and would love to hear your opinions on whether or not you believe it to be true or not.

Does this sound like yours truly? You lie awake at night stressing about not-very-meaningful conversations you have had during the day and formulating the witty comebacks you should have said? OR maybe you constantly worry that you have made the wrong career choices? AND perhaps you’re even huanted by negative thoughts about your body, health and relationships?

Overthinking is an epidemic which affects every aspect of our lives. It invovles the persistent rehashing of your past, present and future without moving onto problem solving. It’s partly the result of a cultural shift towards self analysis. But many people, women especially, have taken self-awareness too far.

We’re also a generation that has a growing sense of entitlement - we expect to have have lots of money, a job we love, consistently fulfilling relationships, and to feel good most of the time. When this doesn’t happen, we don’t accept it as part of normal life. Instead, we spend inordinate amounts of time and energy thinking about WHY we’re not satisfied. (more…)

Blessings come in many forms and when you are blessed, it is appropriate to celebrate as they are gifts to you. When you choose to be open and receive blessings, your perspective of life is changed for the better. When you are in alignment with what the Universe is bringing you, you will be pleasantly surprised at what shows up.


Law of Attraction

Last night I was involved in a group conversation and the Law of Attraction was one of the topics of course. I will share a story with you.

Amber was tired of driving around in her bomb of a car and really wanted a 4WD. A mutual friend told her to just imagine that when she was driving around to feel like what it would be like to be in a 4WD and believe that her car was actually a 4WD… not any particular model, just a 4WD. So every time she would jump into her shitty little car, she would sit with her head held high and it felt great.

About three months later, her parents told her that they didn’t want her driving around in an unreliable car so they gave her $30,000 to go and buy herself a new car and off she went to buy her 4WD. She didn’t have to save for it or even know how it would be possible, just believing and feeling what it would be like brought the car to her.

So today, I want to share this short movie with you. This movie has touched many people over and over again and I just couldn’t put it any better than to just show you.

The May You Be Blessed site is wanting to reach 1 billion people with this movie by October 18th 2008, so go and watch it and pay it forward to all your friends. It will make your day.

Count Your Blessings

Ange