A short time ago I wrote that I Love You and it attracted some attention. I was sent this image by a friend and thought to use it here. How many times have you done something embarrassing or hurtful without intention to the one you LOVE? Now I’m sure this little fellow didn’t mean it however, things do go wrong sometimes in a relationship and it’s not that easy to get back in the good books of your beloved without having to sacrifice something unless you have a very understanding and committed partnership.

Being in a relationship or partnership brings quite a responsibility if you want it to work. Teamwork is the key. A relationship is a two sided affair so two people need to learn how to communicate with one another in an empowering way.

Relationships Require Commitment

The statistics of marriages breaking down and children growing up with only one biological parent in the home are forever increasing. Now, I am not saying that couples need to stay together for their children’s sake, and if husband and wife are not getting along and have outgrown each other, then it is better for them and their children for the couple to go their separate ways and in my opinion, after sourcing all avenues for help. What I would like to hear about is an increase in responsibilities and making sure that the children are adequately cared for, taught emotional intelligence, and to respect others when this does happen.

I am bringing this subject up because I went to dinner with some of the mothers from my daughters class last week and one of them was finishing off her teaching rounds at a particular school where the majority of children are being raised in a one biological parent home. A great number of these children learn independence at a very young age… as young as nine years old… perhaps even younger in some instances. They get themselves to school and back again as parents have to work to support the family. At my daughters school, most of the kids are dropped off by a parent, usually the mum as they are not at work.

The mother doing the teaching rounds went on to tell us of one child who had slapped a teacher across the face with an open hand and had been expelled from the school and this child hadn’t even turned 10 yet. This was only one incident among many others which she recounted to us that night and I can tell you that the stories weren’t pretty ones. Having said all that, these children will “grow up” faster than children who are lead by the hand in everything they do. Am I being harsh here? I like to teach my children independence and at the same time, respect for others.

It made me wonder and I cannot make any judgments as I do not know the child or her background. I can only surmise that this child is very unhappy and angry to perform such an action. It really made me sad to think that only 10 kilometres down the road their are children crying out for help and there is no-one available to guide and teach them. An I Love You wouldn’t go astray for this child and others like her. It would make a huge impact on her life in a positive way.

Am I making too many assumptions here because at our local school, their are many parents who get involved with their children’s schooling from dropping them off to reading with the children, to volunteering to help out in the classroom for literacy and numeracy lessons and then picking them up again? And don’t get me wrong, my daughters school is not perfect, but it does have a good reputation for being proactive with their curriculum and community. It is family orientated.

Your Thoughts

I would like your opinion please. Do you think it is easy nowadays for couples to separate without giving their relationship the work and commitment it requires to stay alive and strong? Do you spend time nurturing your children and at the same time, also teach them independence? I know there are great variances between children, but as a guide from some of the parents out there who have already been there so to speak… in your valued opinion, what have you tried that has worked with your kids and/or your relationship?

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Have you ever had something happen to you that made you angry and because of this, you said hurtful words to a loved one without meaning too? I was visiting with some friends the other day and they were having a new oven delivered. Upon unwrapping the oven it was obvious that they had received the wrong one, so she got all in a tizz and said something awful to her husband on a totally different subject! I immediately noticed why this had happened and hinted that perhaps she was angry with the store that had delivered the wrong oven and not angry with her husband. She is a good friend so I can say these things to her.

The point I am making here is that when you are challenged and it makes you feel the emotion of anger, no matter who is there with you, and if nobody is, we do have a tendency to call someone just so we can vent our anger, we can easily slip up and say something that we may regret. Your anger can unintentionally hurt another so make it a habit to become aware of the language and the words you use when conversing with others… especially those we love.

In this case above, the husband dismissed what his wife had said but it could have easily turned into an outright misunderstanding causing a whole set of problems which wouldn’t have served either one of them. Have you been aware of this happening to you? I know that there have been times when something has upset me and without thinking, I have lashed out at the person closest to me. That was before I learned how to be aware of my thoughts and language.

Quick to think, slow to anger, and slow to speak

It takes practice to know why we say the things we do. It could be something as easy as stubbing your toe upon getting out of bed that sets your day in a direction of a downward spiral and without knowing, we snap and let the fact that we are not happy, make someone else not happy just so we don’t have to suffer alone! Does this make sense?

Think for a moment to the last time you were hurt or disappointed, how you re-acted and if you happened to use language that empowered or dis-empowered yourself or someone else! Remember how it felt and if you can, also, how was your physiology at the time? I say this because we do sit/stand differently when we are upset as opposed to when we are ecstatic! Our physiology then has a role to play in the language we use.

Okay, take time out and try this. Stand up and hang your head and hunch your shoulders over as though you are a victim of circumstance. Think back to a time when you felt anger. In this position, try smiling and having good thoughts. Can you? I mean, can you really think good thoughts if you have just been hurt or are angry?

Now try this. Stand up tall with eyes forward and a big smile on your face. How easy is it to say something positive? Totally different way of looking and feeling isn’t it? So how easy would it be now to become aware of your language that you use and how it affects others?

So, there is a marked difference as to how we speak depending on our physiology. If you can get over it sooner rather than later, you will be doing yourself and those around you a great favour. Don’t let your anger unintentionally hurt someone else. Be aware of how you are feeling and think about the words you will speak before opening your mouth. Life can be so much more pleasant when feeling love rather than anger.

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Have you ever felt like you were the only person in the whole universe with a challenge? You may have noticed that I have been absent from Buzzing with Ange a bit lately. To tell you the truth, I lost my creativity and didn’t want to bring you half-baked articles just to keep updating. Instead, I have been meandering along another path away from my laptop and that is the one of further study for my NLP (Neuro-Linguistic-Programming) Master Practitioner along with training for the Kokoda Trek!

Aside from that, we, that is my family, have recently found out that my dad needs to have open heart surgery and as I type this, he has been hospitalised due to a series of recurring minor heart attacks and we are waiting to hear when he will be able to have the procedure done. Needless to say, it has put us all on standby wondering what the outcome will be.

Through all this, I have learned something about myself and that is that I am not the super emotionally strong person I thought I was. Does this mean that I have failed? No, not at all! In fact, what is has done is made me aware of the vulnerabilities that we as humans all have and that is that when someone close to us that we love faces a life threatening challenge, we start asking the questions why. After all, my dad is a very fit man and at the age of 78, he walks 60 kms per week!

The thing is to not ask why, but rather, how do we adapt to make this experience go as smoothly as possible while maintaining a positive outlook so as to keep my dad’s spirits up and help him as best we can through this challenge?


This Is How We Grow

While being empathic to his reality, I think the best thing I can do is spend time with him and ask questions so that I can learn as much as I can about him… I’m sure there are many things that I do not know about my dad and at the same time, tell him how I feel about him. Use the time to really bond and I think I am sounding like this is the end for him, and I’m sure it isn’t, but what an opportunity to get even closer than I was before! My point is that sometimes we leave things unsaid and then have regrets that we shoulda coulda woulda done this that and the other. I have heard it too many times before and I would rather not be left in that situation so speak now before it is too late.

This way of thinking can apply to anyone in our lives who we may be needing to discuss things with. What I mean is to not let emotions hold you back from speaking up about something or clearing the air if need be. I’m thinking in particular about forgiveness and emotional intelligence which goes a long way towards your personal development. Being consciously aware of our reactions to particular people or circumstances and coming to an agreement with ourselves or others, helps us keep things in perspective and not make up stories about it… after all, your reality will differ from the next person’s reality. We all have a different view of life and whatever your beliefs, it is the right one for you. Remember though that holding onto negative thoughts you have without either writing them down or talking about them with someone, will only make you the victim so please, if you have something to say then say it.

I know I am not the first person to be faced with this situation and I won’t be the last. So, I am not looking for sympathy here, rather, I would like to ask what are some of the things you may have tried in a similar situation which worked for you and your family to get you through a time like this?

Okay… I have made it back from the seminar and my feet have touched the ground again so let me tell you about the 4 Day Education for Life seminar with Jamie McIntyre.

We, that is my beautiful partner and I, registered on the Thursday evening prior, to escape the crazy crowds on Friday morning, and we are so glad we did as there were 700 attendees at this particular venue all ready for an extra-ordinary weekend. Having attended twice before, I was aware of what to expect. As for Chris, he had no idea of the impact it would make on his life.

Emotional Intelligence

Jamie spends the first day introducing us to Emotional Intelligence and how important it is to develop a certain mindset in order to be able to make important decisions relating to your finances and creating wealth. To master your finances, you must first master your emotions, therefore, developing a sense of awareness of our surroundings and ourselves is the first step.

I think we all know this and somehow, there are still some of us out there who find it a challenge even to make a decision at times, let alone how we are to spend our money or what kind of investments we should make. Let me ask you this. Do you think that a millionaire would think differently to someone who relies on a pension perhaps? Of course they would. Now the reason I am using this extreme example is simply to make a distinction. The millionaires perception of an opportunity would possibly never occur to a pensioner, so that is why re-wiring the subconscious mind and developing the mindset of a millionaire plays such a big role towards your success with the following strategies. The academy graduates who have done this have gone on to create a life that they love.

BILL STACY
“Apart from me? Ok… I just retired my Sister, pulled my Mum off the pension and retired two of my closest friends. I have a cousin who is supplying his own funding for UNI instead of relying on Austudy. I have 3 other cousins who are on the verge of leaving their jobs and know personally of at least 5 or 6 other grads who have left their jobs by replacing their income by other means. Every single one of them feels totally elated and are in a state of disbelief that it has actually happened to them so very quickly. It’s a good feeling knowing that I have changed so many lives. I also appreciate your comments and am glad that my personal goals and successes have inspired you and others.”



Internet Marketing, Property Investing, Stock Market and Business

Creating a synergy of these four strategies is the way Jamie was able to get himself out of debt and become a multi-millionaire while still in his early twenties. Coupled with the mindset, he has done extremely well for himself and having Anthony Robbins as one of his mentors has only accelerated his growth.

Now Jamie wants to help others in finding their way to creating wealth for themselves so he has partnered with some awesome speakers who have also produced results to give us their secrets on how to go about it. They included:

Mark Rolton from Massland Property Options, Tony Christiansen - Motivational Speaker, Peter Bland the Ice Man and self-confessed thrillionaire, Angus Knight - Stock Broker, Daniel Kertcher - Stock Market, George Fokas - Sharelord, and Jennie Armato - Internet Marketing.

There were many more but I think you get the drift. Each of these speakers presented their strengths in their area of expertise and where they have been able to master and tweak a particular strategy to make it work for them and have gone on to create abundance in their lives and now in a position to teach others to do the same.

The weekend finished up with a Charity Gala Ball so that we could go on and celebrate the learnings from the seminar. We met some great people whom we will keep in touch with and it’s a great idea to help keep us and them accountable. New friendships being formed under those circumstances are a great asset towards our success.

Jamie’s ebook is available to everyone for downloading and I would love to meet up with you at one of Jamie’s future seminars. Now that would be fun! Let me know if any of you have come across any of these speakers before. Tony Christiansen is a native of New Zealand. He lost his legs when he was run over by a train at the age of 9 and had he went on to become a successful sign writer, pilot, life saver, and he has even climbed Mt Kilimanjaro! Lovely guy and a great sense of humour too. Well worth visiting his site when you get the chance.

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Kurek Ashley had many roles in the movies as the bad guy so he is not well remembered because let’s face it… who remembers the bad guy. I met Kurek just over one year ago at Nik Halik’s Money Masters seminar here in Melbourne. Kurek has worked with John Travolta, Sylvester Stalone and Russell Crowe, to name a few.

Today I listened to Sarah Wilson from Adventure Coaching interview Kurek live and his story is amazing. During his acting career, while working in Asia on the movie Delta Force 2 with Chuck Norris, there was a helicopter crash in which five of his friends were killed. His best friend died in his arms on the way to hospital. Just prior to the tragic loss of lives, Kurek himself had been in that same helicopter as 20 takes were rehearsed and filmed. You can maybe only begin to imagine how that made him feel.

After that incident, Kurek turned to using recreational drugs, drinking alcohol, violence and multiple attempts at suicide. Every day he held a .38 claibre revolver to his head in order to end the pain he was feeling until three years later, he made a decision. A decision where he chose to put an end to the destructive lifestyle he was living. He turned his life around by quitting the drugs and alcohol and reading self-help books, using affirmations with purpose and not long after this, he was running seminars in the US.


Life Success Coach

Today, Kurek is a Life Success Coach and holds the world record for the longest fire walk ever being 81 metres in length. In his interview, Kurek said that he is very efficient and that he fits everything in. The powerful tool with which he uses to manage this is his brain.

If your brain picks up that you are happy with your life, you will achieve more results. Feeling grateful for what you already have in your life is equal to love, and feeling the love attracts more love to you.

Once you have a thought, put it into action immediately as once you put things on the back-burner, it loses it’s urgency. You must also be willing to DO what the average person is not willing to do and even though today could be the worst day in your life, for someone else, it may be the best day in their lives, if they happen to be having the same kind of day as you!

Kurek uses affirmations like

I am Fortunate

I am Successful

I am Grateful

These are very simple to remember and you could use these easily throughout your day. Say them out loud like you mean it and notice the difference it makes to the way you feel.

Kurek also coached the Australian Womens Volleyball team to win Gold in the Sydney 2000 Olympics. At one seminar he ran, Natalie Cook was sitting in his audience and Kurek suggested that nobody would buy a book from the athlete that won the bronze medal. So after the seminar was over, Natalie walked up to him and said…

I stood on the third box… and I know you have the tools to help me win Gold.

So with that, Kurek coached Natalie Cook and Kerri Ann Pottharst for two and a half years to go on and win that Gold Medal here in Australia on their home soil.

Moral of the Story

With this little knowledge I have given you here, my wish is for you to see that anything is possible. You do not need to go through a state of depression like Kurek did and lead a self destructive lifestyle in order to find the answers within which will give your life’s purpose. Rather, we each have our own little demons and voices in our heads which pop up from time to time and if we listen to these voices and let them take control of our lives, we end up down in the dumps.

Brainstorming to find the things you are passionate about and and writing down a list of goals you want to achieve, broken down into baby steps will give you the desire to do the things that need to be done and once you can work efficiently, you will achieve the results you want to achieve.

Tell me how you deal with the voices in your head. Do you listen to them? Do you let them take over? If not, what steps have you taken to take control of your life? Feel free to share.

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