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A Paradigm Shift

In my last post I talked about being an adrenalin junkie which made me stop and think about what I was actually saying. Through attending many personal development seminars and training with NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), I have learned that whatever you say you are, you are. This is not something new to me, and there are times when I do use the wrong language. I should know better you would think… well, I am human after all 😉

Since then, I have had a paradigm shift. I had a dream last night that I was bird hopping along the ground not being able to make out the tops of trees, but instead, all I could see was the grass stalks and some twigs and leaves. When I flew up into the sky I could then make everything out. I could see the trees in relation to the ground and the grass. I could even make out a valley and a body of water. Things seemed much clearer from up above. I noticed that the higher I flew, the more of the landscape I could see. Even the approaching clouds threatening a change in the weather.

Why am I telling you this. I am telling you this because from a distance, I could see the whole picture and not just what was down on the ground level. There are times when all you can see is what’s right in front of you. All the menial tasks that must be done on a daily basis. These tasks are just as important as the big ones. I have read that the art of successful living calls on the ability to pull back and see the big picture… take time out to re-focus.

There are some spiritual disciplines that favor retreats to be able to reconnect with your Higher Self or Spirit, whichever you would like to call it. This is also another form of nurturing your emotional intelligence. If you can take the time off and make it to such a retreat, fantastic! If you are limited with your time because maybe you work on your own or you have family commitments that you cannot pull away from at the drop of a hat, there are other ways of re-connecting and grounding yourself.

Here is a list that may give you some ideas:

  1. Take one day off and make it a vision quest where you carry one question in your mind – What do I do next? Let it simmer while you walk, meditate, swim or just stare into space!
  2. Take one hour to sit in amongst nature – be it a park, the beach, or even your backyard – and just shut everything out. Don’t think about a thing.
  3. Go and have a full body massage and DO NOT talk through the process. I say this because when I worked in the beauty industry and clients would come in for a massage, there were ones who tended to talk throughout the whole hour. Not very relaxing and they missed the point of having the massage… although, some would come just to vent their troubles.
  4. Run yourself a nice, deep bubble bath and burn essential oils with candles around the bathroom. The citrus oils are uplifting while peppermint and rosemary are invigorating.

Pulling back and regaining your focus is a must to be able to function at your highest potential. If while you are working and you seem to be procrastinating, notice this and ask yourself this question: What can I do in the next 20 minutes that will take me in the direction I want to go. It could be writing a letter, making a phone-call, paying a bill, joining a gym or even enlisting the help of a coach. It will different for each of you depending on what your goals are. Think of it as writing an outline of a novel and not the whole book.

These are some guidelines to consider.

  • Think big.
  • Think small.
  • Learn to go back and forth easily between your points of focus.
  • If you dream too much, you may get lost in unproductive tasks.
  • If you are run off your feet with details and other’s demands, you are in danger of losing focus on the big picture.

My goal is to follow and stick to these guidelines so that I may become someone whose bigger dreams drive and inspire others. Let me know how I am doing from time to time.

Change Your Thoughts and You Can Change the World

I would like to leave you with this video that shows how your thoughts can change your focus and in turn, change the world as you see it. Enjoy!


12 comments to “A Paradigm Shift”

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  1. Important post Ange. For the more concrete amongst your readers you may also think of it as taking your emotional inventory. First step is recognition…then contemplation….then relaxation. What would you most like more of in your warehouse? Peace, Joy, harmony and fulfillment? Or Anger, resentment, anxiety and fear? The power of the mind is the strongest power we possess yet one I think we tend to not hone or “shape up.” It too requires exercise!!


  2. The mind sure does require exercise… just like the rest of your body. I think it is rather important as we try to find balance in all that we do. It’s certainly something I will be looking for and I think that the video here is a good projection that it can be done.

    It’s good to see you here and commenting too, Blogtommy… thanks for stopping by 🙂

  3. A great post their Ange, I have been a big believer in NLP for some time now.

    It’s hard at times to keep a strong mind focus with little speed bumps and distractions around you. I suppose thats part of the challenge too; mentally shutting out or overcoming the interference?

    Your blog’s look great too by the way; lovely clear template!

  4. Yes 30 Day Man, we do tend to get distracted and being aware of those distractions is a sense that we must develop over time to get us back on track!

    I have been told that it is easier for men to focus on one thing at a time as we women tend to have a million things going on all at once. The focus and re-focus is a challenge that I will have to fine tune in order to become a master!

    Re blog: I looked around for quite some time to find this one and I am happy at how it is progressing. It’s always a work in progress 😉

  5. It is very interesting how just a little change of thought can make such a huge difference in how we live our lives.

    But when do these thought changes stop. I have been in a tremendous personal growth and change stage for a while. Just when I think that I am where I should be another big change happens. It seems that I am always starting over, and starting new.

    Not that I mind. I actually like it, but it does not translate to making money very well.

    Coach Kip’s last blog post..Achieve It

  6. Another great post Ange!

    ….Let me know how I am doing from time to time….

    One day at a time is the only way to do it!

    Maintaining perspective is the key, and being able to think big, and think small, is a real key that we can forget on a day to day basis.

    My favourite way of getting things into perspective has been to go to the top of the mountain here, and just look out over the valley…

    Allan Cockerill’s last blog post..Santa Never Made It Into Darwin For Christmas

  7. @Coach Kip… Welcome 🙂

    Change is inevitable in this society we live in… life tends to throw a curve ball every now and then. “Tremendous personal growth!” I like that. It’s great to know that we can never stop learning… otherwise we would go stale. The money thing is interesting as well. There could be a breakthrough waiting to happen there. I will be writing more about the money subject in the new year so check back and see what’s happening from time to time.

    @ Allan my dear friend… keeping things in perspective is key. Just like the bird who could see the whole picture whilst flying and could only see crumbs on ground level. On top of the mountain sounds like a wonderful place to be 🙂

    @Tondy I first came across that video a little while ago and it stood out for me. I had always wanted to use it somehow. Glad you liked it 🙂

  8. Hi Jessie, yes you do and I love the way you write too. Remember to always take action and those positive results will follow!!

    Nice wish list you made too. Happy New Year to you 🙂

  9. I loved the post and am bummed that the video is no longer available. Is there anything we can do to get it back?