Why is it that we feel we should always have to please other people before pleasing ourselves? This has been bugging me for quite some time now. Remember when you were a child and were always being told to “be careful,” or “don’t do that,” or “don’t say that.” Do you cringe now when you hear those words? I do. I have two small children and I must admit that it slips out now and again, but when it does, I recognise it straight away.
Think about this for a moment. It’s like when you were a child out on a bushwalk with your family, and you come to a crossing over some water with rocks as stepping stones. You are told to “be careful or you might fall in.” So what happens… you fall in. If you are told, on the other hand, that you will get an ice-cream when you get to the other side, then there are no slip ups. Everyone gets across without incident.
Learn to think and live outside the box. When you hear those words, say to yourself “Who am I being careful for?” Being careful leaves you in a world of regrets and living in fear of not upsetting anyone or anything. Be who you are and live your dreams. You might be pleasantly surprised by the person you’ve been hiding.
Yours in Freedom