Falling In and Out of Love
When you meet someone and you start to develop a friendship, you learn all the things that you have in common with each other. For example walking along the beach or that you both love dogs, or it could be travel or rock climbing or investing!
It could be any number of things that you enjoy doing so when someone shows up in your ife that enjoys all the same things as you do, that’s when a connection happens. You start to see all the things that are an aspect of yourself and that is what you really fall in love with.
Of course when falling in love or infatuation, there are also very strong sexual desires that go with the “feelings” but is this true love? We can’t deny that the feelings are intense and it gives us such a warm, fuzzy feeling that it makes us feel wonderful and that it makes you believe that you have actually found your true love.
When we fall in love it collapses our reality. When our emotions are in that state of “being in love” it seems that nothing is impossible and that we can conquer all and live in bliss forever. This is where all those fairy tales of make believe have conditioned us.
True love or Spiritual love is when we contribute to another persons spiritual and personal growth and has nothing to do with our sexual desires. We do not fall in love with our parents, brothers, sisters or children but we can love them deeply. These are the people that no matter what they do, you can forgive them and still love them.
The Law of Attraction is powerful enough that when our thoughts are in alignment with another’s, then we attract the people in our lives that we can form a bond with. So when our life seems incomplete in the relationship department, we start to think about the person that we would most like to be with.
I know of people that have written lists of traits that they would love their mate to have. Remember to be specific in what you ask for as for example if you wish to have children with your mate, make sure that you write down that they are the offspring of the two of you or you may meet someone that already has children to bring to the relationship.
Falling out of love
But what happens when these feelings pass? Falling in love is really only temporary whereas true love never fades. This is why when you have been in a relationship for a while you can start to see the aspects of yourself in the other person that you do not like or you start having little disagreements, therefore you have then “fallen out of love”.
True love requires you to extend your limitations and grow spiritually which requires effort, whereas falling in love is quite effortless. Sometimes we even choose the wrong person to fall in love with although we can learn important lessons through doing this.
Now how many times has that happened to you? I know that I have been in and out of love many times and when I think back to the relationships that I have had, they have all been for different reasons and with totally different personality traits. Don’t worry, yes I can have many personalities at once, lol. This comes from multi-tasking and raising a family 🙂
Finding that one true love can bring us the most extraordinary life experiences, and is a search that will be never ending for some. The people that have grown personally and spiritually in a relationship have been very blessed to have been in that situation.
Have you found your “true love?”
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