Personal Development

Falling In and Out of Love

Falling in LoveFalling in Love and Out of Love – I bet you have all been in love and out of love many, many times. The question I pose to you is have you ever wondered what it is that you fall in love with and why?

When you meet someone and you start to develop a friendship, you learn all the things that you have in common with each other. For example walking along the beach or that you both love dogs, or it could be travel or rock climbing or investing!

It could be any number of things that you enjoy doing so when someone shows up in your ife that enjoys all the same things as you do, that’s when a connection happens. You start to see all the things that are an aspect of yourself and that is what you really fall in love with.

Of course when falling in love or infatuation, there are also very strong sexual desires that go with the “feelings” but is this true love? We can’t deny that the feelings are intense and it gives us such a warm, fuzzy feeling that it makes us feel wonderful and that it makes you believe that you have actually found your true love.

When we fall in love it collapses our reality. When our emotions are in that state of “being in love” it seems that nothing is impossible and that we can conquer all and live in bliss forever. This is where all those fairy tales of make believe have conditioned us.

True Love

True love or Spiritual love is when we contribute to another persons spiritual and personal growth and has nothing to do with our sexual desires. We do not fall in love with our parents, brothers, sisters or children but we can love them deeply. These are the people that no matter what they do, you can forgive them and still love them.

The Law of Attraction is powerful enough that when our thoughts are in alignment with another’s, then we attract the people in our lives that we can form a bond with. So when our life seems incomplete in the relationship department, we start to think about the person that we would most like to be with.

I know of people that have written lists of traits that they would love their mate to have. Remember to be specific in what you ask for as for example if you wish to have children with your mate, make sure that you write down that they are the offspring of the two of you or you may meet someone that already has children to bring to the relationship.

Falling out of love

But what happens when these feelings pass? Falling in love is really only temporary whereas true love never fades. This is why when you have been in a relationship for a while you can start to see the aspects of yourself in the other person that you do not like or you start having little disagreements, therefore you have then “fallen out of love”.

True love requires you to extend your limitations and grow spiritually which requires effort, whereas falling in love is quite effortless. Sometimes we even choose the wrong person to fall in love with although we can learn important lessons through doing this.

Now how many times has that happened to you? I know that I have been in and out of love many times and when I think back to the relationships that I have had, they have all been for different reasons and with totally different personality traits. Don’t worry, yes I can have many personalities at once, lol. This comes from multi-tasking and raising a family 🙂

Finding that one true love can bring us the most extraordinary life experiences, and is a search that will be never ending for some. The people that have grown personally and spiritually in a relationship have been very blessed to have been in that situation.

Have you found your “true love?”

Love and Laughter

Ange

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  1. I really don’t know the true feeling of love and what it means. “LOVE” word used by most is actually selfish love… Not selfless.One is using (a) people whom they love (b) things they love…. to satisfy/promote his or her selfish needs.. think about it deeply… can you actually love anything/a person without the ” YOU”.. I mean without the ” I” “ME” and “Myself”. Don’t confuse obessesion with love

    true love I guess is not dependent on anything materialistic .. True love is something which cannot be measured, argued with.. In True love ME is ABSENT ..True love is unconditional, gives immense joy (much more than just happiness) and i have been witness to many such moments… some of them are as follows (a) just watching babies (b) looking at trees (b) seeing a really hungry/needy person eating food (d) animals doting their young ones and many more.

    The amount of joy (not pleasure) these sights give is beyond words…..

    Please and try and take out the “I” “Me” “Myself” from everything you see, observe, comprehend.. it is very difficult to do that. i have been trying for long….

  2. Cool comment rishim0, very deep and thoughtful. Thank you. Selfish love can be very destructive to the “I” “me” and “myself” not to mention the object of our desire…

    True love is unconditional and that’s where I mentioned that no matter whatever those that we truly love do, we could always forgive them and we do get immense joy from being in their presence.

    I know that the ego gets in the way of love and what could potentially be a beautiful relationship is soon destroyed by letting “I” “me” and “myself” get in the way.

    Working on a lasting realtionship with anybody takes work from both sides and in this, we can become better people for being selfless.

    Ange

  3. help me please i have an amazing boyfirend we have been dating for over a yr but i donno if im in love with him anymore hes been working alot these past 3 4 weeks and its just … he comes home n goes to bed or he trys but i just am so confused i donno if its just me and how i feel about my self these days it just seems i cant be happy and there are things i want him to do and say and he just doesnt and when he does it doesnt matter to me anyway he annoys me all the time i hate hearing him talk like wtf is going on with me i just need some help

  4. You have a really great handle on falling in and out of love! I’d like to add that according to Law of Attraction what we focus on comes more into our experience. So as the glitter fades from that new relationship and we start to see a few negatives – if we start to focus on those they’ll magnify in our minds until we manifest problems and fall out of love.

    Maria the Muses last blog post..Do You Have a Groundhog?

  5. I BELEIVE THAT LOVE HAS MANY FACETS JUST LIKE A DIAMOND. I FELL IN LOVE WITH A MAN THAT BOUGHT SO MUCH LIGHT TO THAT DIAMOND. NOT EVEN A STAR COULD MATCH THE MAGIC.
    THERE IS NO LOVE WITHOUT ANY SORROW, BUT THE GREATEST SORROW IS NEVER TO LOVE. YES, I HAVE LOVED. I HAVE LOVED INDEED.

  6. True love is hard to find. Before you find true love, you experienced to fall in love. It brings happiness, but TRUE LOVE brings more happiness to us. For me, true love is sacrifice because I learned to give up my true love for the sake of ours. I learned to let him go not because I didn’t have enough feelings for him but because I love him so much. I want to make things right and maybe when the right time comes we will meet and love again each other.
    Finding true love can bring us the most extraordinary life experiences, and is a search that will be never ending for some. That’s right! Now, i still waiting for the right time comes and I trust God alone to make his will be done in me. I believe that true love waits.. 🙂

  7. I Like these lines:
    *have you ever wondered what it is that you fall in love with and why?
    -i really don’t know..it just happen

    *there are also very strong sexual desires that go with the “feelings” but is this true love?
    -not for me..i enjoy it but really not in love…

    *When we fall in love it collapses our reality.
    -sometimes..difficult to understand but can easily manage..

    *True love or Spiritual love is when we contribute to another persons spiritual and personal growth and has nothing to do with our sexual desires.
    But what happens when these feelings pass?
    – i moved on..^_^

    *Now how many times has that happened to you?
    – a lot..

    *Have you found your “true love?”
    -I’m not yet prepared for that..;)