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Thinking before you speak takes training, and I agree with you that life would be so much more enjoyable if we all directed our anger in a healthy way. The first thing is to know why you are angry and take steps not to misdirect it so that you make your problems worse! Not everyone is as understanding as this woman’s husband was.

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I wrote a little on this last night about an encouragement challenge I am doing for my husband (well myself mostly) – is this image a creative commons -can I borrow it.

I am going to print it anyway – for both me and my 14yr old son who I speak to a little harshly … him too.

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We tend to have that “laugh at ourselves” culture as well here in Australia. It’s so easy not to laugh and get upset which then only brings the focus back on our anger or hurt, whereas if we laugh it off, it makes the situation so much more pleasant.

When we have children around us it is even more important for that awareness of language to be present. We are all human so we cannot be perfect and I will be the first to admit that on occasion, I will slip and knowing I have, always backtrack to explain why I did it.

Thanks for taking the time to share this my friend. Much appreciated!

Having been “enrolled” in the military school of torture rather involuntarily for 10 months when I was younger, I’ve learned to control emotions of rage rather well. One slight expression of anger in word, deed, or disposition can send you to your spiritual freedom in an instant.

Being careful with what I express has been ingrained in me especially since I started a family. Children learn from what we say and do and tend to imbibe these into their own psyche’. I’ve always looked for what is positive and to find the fun in anything I do. I have inculcated the same in my kids. Not all of them have fully adapted it but the seeds are there.

In our country, part of our culture is to laugh at ourselves and our own follies. When we trip, fall or bump our toes on solid rock, we simply wince and call ourselves silly for missing the rock. Sometimes we even say excuse me.

Of course, this is not always easy. There are times when I am really peeved to the point of exploding but I think twice about its impact on those around me. I can talk firmly but not angrily. At times I can show temper but not lose it. I would then leave with a smile, go somewhere private, and release it to my heart’s content. In the workplace, this can be easily achieved. At home, it is more difficult, since we look at the home as our sanctuary and we should feel safe. When things go wrong here, i make it a point to relax those involved, ask what happened, and find solutions. Then assure them that it’s alright. After an hour or so, I return and admonish those guilty in a kind way.

It takes a lot of patience, but it saves me from releasing toxins within my body, makes me healthier, and younger looking. It also takes a lot of practice. Words are always a good guide, but practice makes perfect. –Durano, done!

That’s a great passage you quoted too. I believe there is a growing awareness and it all starts with us and the example we give to our children and families.

Thanks for sharing,

Peace

In the midst of ‘living’, whether pursuing our career,
avocations, or just fixing up the home with a new washing machine,
what good is it if we leave a trail of emotional destruction?

Our overall impact on others should remain a positive force.
I’ve watched as the “I/Me” egocentricity of the last 20 or 30 years has mistakenly transposed “You count, speak up”,
into ‘say whatever, whenever’, even at the expense of others.

You can never truly erase your heard words from existence.
A shared Life is like walking on rice paper; did you leave gentle imprints? Or tears?

Listen, whether you are a Believer or Not,
there is wisdom for Anybody regarding our speech
[in the Book of]
James Chapter 3 verses 5-12.

Thanks Ange,
Ed