Yes, I am one day behind and it’s always better late than never. Blogger Appreciation Day [Unofficial] began with Darren Rowse from Problogger and as I received some love from Derek Semmler at Derek Semmler Dot Com (thank you for reminding me Derek) I wanted to join in and give my own bit of link love away to my readers who have commented on Buzzing with Ange (not original I know), and also to some random peeps I come across on a daily basis online on one social network or another. I would like to acknowledge you as without you, the conversation wouldn’t go on, and please know that I do appreciate your thoughts and support recently regarding my Dad who will be home in a day or two! He is doing extraordinarily well.

Like Darren, I also receive from time to time, emails and messages from people who have appreciated something I have said or written about and I have to tell you that I feel very blessed to have this opportunity of meeting and sharing with you online and I do enjoy our dialogue so keep them coming!

Now to a list of bloggers who all have something to contribute in their own way so if you haven’t already visited them, please make a point to check out their wonderful sites.

Kate

Durano Lawayan

Alice Seba

Jim and Emma

Mike French

Mr Grudge

Peter McCartney

Jamie Le Souef

Rod Sherwin

Paul Burman

Sandra

Jyoti Mukhia

Allan Cockerill

aussiecynic

Heidi

Iconic

Saul Maraney

Carole Fogarty

Zack

Dan B

Swubird

Jack Payne

Lia

Tondy

Pearl

Soa

Jessie

Allison Reynolds

Janette Toral

Rob

Marc

Camilla Ricketts

Yasmin

Sean Rasmussen

Aaron Wakling

Jonathan

Bridget Jones

WAHM Tara

Diane Aldred

Lunes

Oza Meilleur

Megan from Imaginif

Shane Vander Hart

George Kedourie

Alexander Alaric

John Harmon

Bec Le Souef

Bambi

Nez

Nadine Touzet

Thank you for making my experience online a positive one.

Does this sound like yours truly? You lie awake at night stressing about not-very-meaningful conversations you have had during the day and formulating the witty comebacks you should have said? OR maybe you constantly worry that you have made the wrong career choices? AND perhaps you’re even haunted by negative thoughts about your body, health and relationships?

Over-thinking is an epidemic which affects every aspect of our lives. It involves the persistent rehashing of your past, present and future without moving onto problem solving. It’s partly the result of a cultural shift towards self analysis. But many people, women especially, have taken self-awareness too far.

We’re also a generation that has a growing sense of entitlement - we expect to have have lots of money, a job we love, consistently fulfilling relationships, and to feel good most of the time. When this doesn’t happen, we don’t accept it as part of normal life. Instead, we spend inordinate amounts of time and energy thinking about WHY we’re not satisfied.

The Art of Fulfillment

Thoughts are things - A blogging friend of mine, Adam, recently asked me to write a guest post on his blog The 30 Day Man where I talked about this, and it seems that we still can’t escape those negative ones. The ones that make us feel bad. The ones that go over and over in our heads that we can’t move ahead on. The Law of Attraction states that whatever we think about, comes about, even if it is negative.

Consistently troubling yourself with the past keeps it in the present and of course the future. My friend Jamie McIntyre - you remember, the guy I met at a seminar - taught me about the six Basic Human Needs (which I will discuss in more detail in future posts) and The Art of Fulfillment.

We often try to come up with logical solutions based on emotional decisions and generally, we are not logical human beings.

Here is a list of the basic human needs:

1. Certainty - this is a feeling of quiet pleasure or security, or self satisfaction with an existing situation.
2. Uncertainty - this brings about doubt.
3. Significance - what is important in your life, ie. career, relationships, family.
4. Connection and Love -the need for human connectivity.
5. Growth - if we are not growing, we are dying.
6. Contribution - (is critical) for everybody.

Getting into a state of certainty is something that all of us can do. Think to a moment when you were never more certain of a situation and the feeling it gave you. It could have been when you bought a house at auction, or when your trading brought you profits. It could have been when you had that first kiss with your soulmate. Did you extend your arm and punch a hole in the air, or perhaps you clapped your hands and said “YES” out loud. Did you slap your thigh, even? Well, maybe not while you were still kissing your soulmate of course but afterwards when you were alone.

Being in a state of certainty can be brought about by re-living those feelings. So whenever you have those feelings of doubt rise up in you, put yourself in that state of certainty and know that you can think those positive thoughts, thereby attracting the things into your life that you DO want like lots of money, a job that you love, fulfilling relationships and feeling good most of the time. So don’t waste your thinking time on what should have been (don’t worry, I am guilty here also), instead, try it right now. Get into that state and may all good things come to you always.

May You Be Blessed